Student asks a sage, “What is love?”
The sage replied, “in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back. But the rule is: you can go through it only once and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the field, going thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wondered…. may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one… but may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he started to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he knew he had missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up going back to the sage with an empty hand.
The sage told him, “…this is love… you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already missed the person….”*
“What is marriage then?” the student asked.
The sage said, “in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is same you can go through it only once and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he picked one medium corn that he felt would satisfy, and came back to the sage.
The sage told him, “this time you brought back a corn…. you looked for one that is just nice, and you had faith and believed this is the best one you get…. this is marriage.”
The truth is, that we chose to marry the person whom we trust