If you’re a man or a woman who values him or herself you won’t settle for anything less than choosing to get the best out of life. You want to have a career that inspires you, you want to eat good food, live in nice accommodation, have a great circle of friends and enjoy all the culture that life has to offer.
And if you are this kind of man or a woman you mustn’t settle for anything less when it comes to finding the right man or a woman. This means that you mustn’t settle for a man or a woman who you are not wholly attracted to and inspired by, and more importantly, you shouldn’t settle for anything less than loving that man or a woman deeply and sincerely.
When I say that you mustn’t settle for a man or a woman that you aren’t wholly attracted to, I do not mean by this that you should overlook every man or a woman who doesn’t absolutely adhere to your “fantasy man or a woman.” I simply mean that you should feel a strong sexual attraction.
Perhaps as important as this sexual attraction, or even more so, you must feel inspired by a man or a woman. There should be something deeper than just the physical attraction, something about a man or a woman that invigorates you in some way. I don’t mean that you simply share commonalities and get on well together, but rather that she possesses some quality that helps you to grow in some way.
Being around him or her you might get the feeling that you can be more of what you already are; more decisive, more determined, more empathetic, more loving. Ultimately, if he or she doesn’t inspire you and excite you in some way that is more than just physical you probably shouldn’t be with him or her, this will not help you to grow.
“Every moment of one’s existence one is growing into more or retreating into less. One is always living a little more or dying a little bit.” -Norman Mailer
When you meet a man or a woman who causes sexual attraction, inspires and excites you, you must act upon your desire to be with him or her. You must express exactly how you feel about him or her with total clarity, even if this might seem scary.
And should you manage to secure a relationship with this man or a woman then you must love him or her totally, without holding anything back.
You aspire to be the best at your chosen profession, you aspire to be the best friend that you can possibly be, you aspire to be the most that you can possibly be in life. So why aspire to be anything less than the absolute best lover that you can possibly be?
Inspire him or she is the same way that she inspires you, by loving him or her with all your heart and penetrating her very being with your total loving presence.
In doing so you will be rewarded by having the totality of your love reflected back to you from him or her. He or She will radiate masculinity or femininity and love back toward you and you can bask in it and all its glory.
“I could climb any mountain, for your love is like a fountain. Let it shower down over me, soak me to the bone. Pour it all over me, am I coming home?” -Ian Brown
However, should you choose to love your man or woman less than totally or to dilute your love in some way, you will not reap these rewards!
If your love for your man or woman becomes fragmented in some way, perhaps because you choose to have more than one man or a woman or because you know you have settled for a man or a woman that isn’t who you really desire, then you will have to suffer the consequences.
The love that is reflected back to you will be merely a fragment also. You will not feel satisfied by this love and you certainly won’t be able to bask in it. You might even feel badly nourished by your relationship, just as you feel after eating an unhealthy and unbalanced meal.
You can go on living a meager existence in this way, retreating into less and less of the man or the woman that you are.
Or you could live life fully by loving your man or woman totally and allowing him or her to nurture your growth just as the sun and the rain nurture the flowers, causing them to bloom into their fullest beauty and potential.
There is absolutely no reason to settle for less than this!
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