How couples coaching can help a couple in need.
| Do any of these situations sound familiar to you? You have decided to move in together, but sharing physical (and emotional) space is a bit more stressful than you imagined it would be. There must be a way to negotiate more closet space! You’re newly engaged with a wedding to plan! So much to do, so little time.so many opinions, so little harmony. How can you two keep everyone happy and your sanity, too? You’re newlyweds and the honeymoon is over. How exactly do you stay in love for a lifetime and out of divorce court? A precious baby is on the way! An event to surely change your life. How can you build on your relationship strengths and become terrific parents? You’ve been married a while, but things just aren’t going as smoothly as you expected. With work and kids and chores and church, not to mention family and volunteering obligations, there’s so much happening all the time that it’s hard to remember why you got married in the first place. You’re in a crisis and on the absolute verge of splitting up. You’ve tried and tried and tried to make it work! What more can you do? Have you ever considered the option of couples coaching? This service can be extremely supportive of all aspects of your relationship. For new couples, newlyweds, and new parents, we can help define common expectations and highlight differences in communication styles and stress reactions. For married couples, we can help you reenergize your commitment and rejuvenate passion. For those couples in crisis, we can teach you how to heal your pain by using effective conflict resolution skills. Doreen Cohanim is an expert on who is trained to offer couples coaching. Coaching, in general, is a unique process. It’s quite different from therapy or counseling because our coaches are solution-oriented. We offer practical skills based on world-renown Mars Venus concepts and Suggestibility test that you can apply to your relationship right away. with amazing results! We’ve discovered that couples coaching works best when each partner has at least one individual session with a coach before having a joint session. This ensures that each of you has the opportunity to fully express your concerns without fear, or worry about hurting the other person’s feelings. Of course, all calls are confidential, which allows you to safely express your deepest feelings while in a personal session with a coach. Afterward, you will meet with your coach–once you’ve had the opportunity to fully express yourself personally and when both partners agree they are ready to take that next step. As you can imagine, when both partners are on a call there are multiple points of view that need to be considered and addressed. This can make for a complex conversation, and it becomes vitally important that each partner on the call feel equally supported. When this happens effectively, the person who did not initially seek help is more likely to stay involved. However, even if your partner isn’t quite ready to participate or isn’t comfortable with the process, you can reap many benefits, and the relationship dynamics can improve by beginning or continuing the coaching process on your own. So, the couples coaching process begins by scheduling sessions for your coach to meet with each of you separately and confidentially. There is no set “formula” or number of sessions because your coach will specifically tailor sessions to each couple’s needs and situation. Once your coach has some background information about your relationship and the particular issues you are facing (both as a couple and individually), the three of you will develop and commit to a plan of action together. This plan often incorporates exercises that can give you more clarity about your situation or encourage you to explore your options and the likely consequences of each. It also can include learning more about the inherent differences between men and women, as well as new communication techniques and conflict resolution skills that you can apply directly and immediately to your relationship. |
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What Women Look for When Dating
How changes in our economic status have affected a woman’s search for Mr. Right
| In the old days, a woman married a man who could take care of her and would provide her with the necessities she needed. In modern times, most women have jobs and are financially independent. Men’s role as the breadwinner has lessened now that women no longer marry strictly for financial reasons. Due to better salaries and increased financial security, most modern women have the luxury of being more selective over who they choose for a mate. Finding a well-off husband is no longer as important as it once was. So now that women don’t need providers, what do they look for in a man? A recent article in the Chicago Tribune reported in this day and age, women are more interested in looks and other qualities as opposed to money. Although a rich man might want a “trophy wife” or girlfriend, studies show that women are much more interested in an attractive man that is also well rounded. Although having a good-looking mate might be a nice quality, often looks are not the first attributes that attract a woman to a man. According to the research of Dr. Doreen Cohanim C.Ht, women are attracted to men in a much different way than men are attracted to women. Doreen knows that there are four different levels of attraction: physical, mental, emotional and soul attraction. Both men and women feel these types of attraction, but they usually feel them in a different order. For men, the first type of attraction they feel is physical. A man may like the way a woman looks and based on this quality, he may become interested in her. If after a few dates a man gets to know a woman better, he may develop a deeper attraction on an emotional level. When men develop an emotional attraction, they begin to realize how much they like and care for a certain woman. By talking to her and getting to know her as a person, he may start to like things about her character and develop a mental attraction. If the relationship progresses past the first three levels successfully, a man will feel a soul attraction and begins to open up his heart to the prospect of love. Women, on the other hand, usually feel attraction differently. When a woman is attracted to a man, the first level of attraction is usually mental. There is something about his character that she finds appealing. After spending some time with him, she might find herself emotionally attracted and will start to care about him and what he does. Once she is emotionally attracted to him, she might take a closer look at him and find certain things physically attractive to her. If the situation is right, she will progress to soul attraction, where her heart will be open to the experience of love. Although most potential relationships progress this way, the Chicago Tribune reported a rise in successful women who have much younger “boy-toy” mates. In the article, Dr. John Gray was quoted saying, “The boy-toy thing is really about women who are very powerful and older . . . a younger man who has not formed an identity for himself . . . [and] is much more willing to yield in her direction.” In this situation, a successful woman finds herself a partner based mainly on his physical appearance. But much like the relationship between a rich man and his trophy girlfriend, a relationship between a rich woman and her boy-toy may not have the same fulfilling quality as a one that has all four levels of attraction. In many cases, if a relationship doesn’t fully develop this type of chemistry, the attraction will wear off and the couple will feel like something is missing. The pair will ultimately realize that they do not have much in common and go their separate ways. Now that women no longer need to rely on a man for financial support, they have a greater ability to pick and choose their mates. There are so many other qualities that factor into having a good relationship that many women do not even consider what a man is earning. Whether she is conscious of it or not, a woman relies on the four levels of attraction when deciding if a person is a good candidate for a relationship. In modern times, a woman may even date a man making much less than herself if he has the qualities that she is looking for in a prospective partner. This was almost unheard of fifty years ago when a man was expected to take care of his wife financially. Of course, if a man is dating a woman earning more than he is when he takes her out on dates that don’t mean he should stick her with the tab. |
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